10 Thoughts that can Destroy Relationships

Along with communication problems negative and insecure thoughts are also roots of broken relationships while it’s crucial for both partners to listen to each other and reflect on their partner’s ends they also need to be open about any underlying thoughts they may be keeping to themselves although most issues need time to be resolved the first step is to be aware of the way you think about your partner as there are some thoughts that can destroy relationships for example one they don’t love me any more it’s reasonable to worry when your significant other begins to invest less time into your relationship but constantly asking for confirmation of their feelings can stir up conflict if you’re always asking do you really love me your partner may start to wonder if there’s cause for concern in fact your concerns may turn into reality if your partner begins to feel overwhelmed by your constant need to validate your relationship instead of jumping to conclusions communicate the feelings you have and work together to become closer – they should it’s toxic to believe your significant other should automatically know what you’re thinking no one has the power to read minds thinking she should know how much it bothers me when she leaves my side at parties or he should know today is important to me isn’t fair to your partner when you’ve never actually discussed these feelings with them instead of feeling disappointed or pretending you’re okay communicate your frustrations to your partner three it’s their fault it’s easy to point fingers and blame the other person when you’re upset but thinking it’s his fault I’m having a bad day or it’s her fault we’re in this mess will only worsen your relationship instead try to take some responsibility for the situation and if you find that you upset your partner as well make an apology which may in turn influence them to apologize too we can’t predict or control what happens in a relationship but we can’t control how we react towards negative situations for overthinking it’s not fair to your partner when you jump to conclusions about them that aren’t based on real evidence such as assuming they’re having an affair when they come home late from work even though they tell you it’s because they had to work overtime it’s important to see your significant other for who they are and learn not to blow little things out of proportion five less than perfect when you start to compare your significant other to your ideal partner you’re placing unrealistic expectations on them even comparing them to a friend’s partner or your old partner can be harmful it’s important to respect who your current partner is and understand that they’re not perfect if there’s qualities or traits you admire in someone else just like your partner know what they did and find out if it’s something they’re willing to change 6 I wish sometimes on bad days you might find yourself fantasizing what it would be like to be with someone else if you frequently have these thoughts you’ll prioritize those possibilities over your current relationship relationships aren’t smooth or easy and changing partners won’t prevent you from experiencing similar conflicts in your new relationship remember there’s a difference between a relationship that will never work out in a relationship that can grow with extra effort seven all or nothing you might say your partner as someone who can do no right or no wrong thinking they can always or never make you happy to make sure you’re not having such extreme thoughts establish a safe stable ground the two of you can exist on learn to take in your partner’s mistakes failures and accomplishments in moderation without seeing those elements as all defining it’ll prevent you from putting your partner on a pedestal or only focusing on negative traits eight labeling label slinging occurs when you generalize who your partner is for example you might call them lazy for leaving a few dishes around although it’s common to see the worst of your partners on bad days if you’re constantly labeling them it becomes hard for you to focus on their positive sides and prevents you from helping them grow out of bad habits they may even feel as though they’ll only ever amount to that label letting little room for improvement 9 playing head games if power struggles start to affect you you may have thoughts about trying to outsmart your partner or gain the upper hand in the relationship you’ll believe your partner has ulterior motives and try to gain a favor from you although power struggles usually only come after the initial stages of romance and attraction they need to be overcomed in order for a relationship to grow and last you must relinquish your desire for power and drive for real happiness 10 what happened to us married couples often think this as their relationship changes over time it’s normal to reminisce but try not to look back couples often forget that there’s more to look forward to when they think their relationship won’t be as exciting in the future robbing the relationship of its full potential relationships are constantly evolving but that doesn’t mean they can’t be as exciting as they were in the beginning and those are 10 thoughts that couples potentially run into in a relationship have you experienced any of them in one of your relationships what do you think we can do to overcome them share your thoughts in the comments below if you enjoyed this video be sure to check out our website as well as our other social media and don’t forget to subscribe thanks for watching you

LGBTQ inclusion – Tips for Elementary Teachers

We’re here today to talk about LGBTQ inclusion in your classroom and what you can do. Now there are a couple of simple tips – I think this is a topic where people get really overwhelmed – they’re really concerned about doing it the right way. We get into education because we are passionate about helping the next generation succeed, about creating global citizens and educating our young people so the best way that we can create great people, excellent leaders, and good human beings moving forward is to give them the space that they need to be their authentic selves starting at a young age. so I’m going to give you a couple of tips right now of how you can start to create more inclusive spaces in your classrooms.

Now these are tips that you can do individually without institutional support. Tip number one: learn the facts. On average more than 50 percent of teachers surveyed reported that they were uncomfortable intervening when a student was bullied about their real or perceived sexual orientation and/or gender identity and expression. According to recent survey 95.8% of LGBTQ students heard anti-gay remarks like faggot or dyke at school. Ninety-five point seven percent of young people heard negative remarks about gender expression and eighty five point seven percent heard negative remarks specifically about transgender people. Eighty five point two percent of LGBTQ students reported that they were verbally harassed, 27 percent reported that they were physically harassed, and 13 percent reported being physically assaulted at school in the past year because of their sexual orientation. And nearly 58 percent of LGBTQ young people reported feeling unsafe in school because of their sexual orientation. These statistics are alarming and it shows that LGBTQ people do not feel safe in school. This alone should be motivation for us to take action. Number two: learn the language. Without having the language or the terminology, we can’t begin to have these conversations inclusion and respect.

So the next step for you as an educator is to become more aware of what the current terminology is regarding sexual orientation and gender identity and expression. Our young people are constantly coming up with words that feel authentic to describe their identity and so that language may be very different than the language that you and I learned growing up. So it’s our responsibility as educators as we grow away from that school age to educate ourselves on the terminology that’s current and being used right now. The next step is to train and educate people around you.

If you are part of an organization of teachers or of educators and you have some influence, if you have a professional development group or school in-service days, advocate for LGBTQ inclusion training for your fellow teachers. The next step is to disrupt anti-LGBTQ behavior or comments as soon as you see them. So if we hear or witness anti-LGBTQ remarks or behavior and we do nothing to intervene that sends a very clear message that we think that’s acceptable and for any LGBTQ young person. It’s important that we step in and shut that behavior down immediately. It’s important to send a message to the entire classroom that using anti-LGBTQ remarks making jokes or teasing or bullying young people based on their real or perceived sexual orientation or gender identity is unacceptable in your classroom. The next step is to integrate LGBTQ topics into your curriculum.

Don’t wait for National Coming Out Day or Day of Silence to talk about LGBTQ issues; integrate it into the rest of the chapters just as you would with any other piece of history. There are gay scientists and lesbian mathematicians and queer people across the world who are doing amazing things it’s important to send the message that LGBTQ people are as a part of the fabric of our nation as any other person. The way that we do this is by providing this visibility throughout the entire academic year and not just designating LGBTQ topics to one or two special days or special events or a theme week in your school.

Another good tip is to set policy or to advocate for policy to be set. Now policy change is hard – I get it. I know by working in in higher education for 11 years that to actually get a policy set or to see change on paper can be really challenging but with your advocating for that in your position as an educator, it will send a message to your boss, your other administrators, to your school district and other stakeholders that this is important for the education of our young people. Another great tip is to be public about your support for your LGBTQ students and for students to be allies. Now there are a lot of different ways that you can do that but visual signs of support will help a student know that your classroom or you are safe space. It could be something as simple as posting a sticker of a rainbow flag in your classroom or by wearing a rainbow pin, by talking about and recognizing LGBTQ people and events of significance when they happen.

It’s going to make a huge difference for those students who are looking for that. It’s also going to create an environment and a culture of inclusion and respect amongst your students and hopefully in your school. This is just the tip of the iceberg. These are just a few things that you can do to create more inclusive spaces in your classroom and for your students so I encourage you to continue to create safer and more inclusive spaces for all of the young people in your classrooms. If you have questions please leave them below or feel free to contact me on social media – @TheChrisMosier.

I’ll be happy to give you more resources, book recommendations, survey information, help you write policies, anything I can do to create these safer spaces for our young people to show up and feel supported and that they can really just be themselves. Thanks for listening. Catch you next time. .

Gay fathers condemned for raising child without ‘mom’: Part 1 | What Would You Do?

JOHN QUIÑONES: Today there are nearly 60,000 adopted and foster children being raised by same-sex couples. ANGELA: Oh she’s so cute! Are you the dad? DAN: Uh, we’re both the dad. We’re married. JOHN QUIÑONES: And married same-sex couples are raising more than 26,000 of those children. ANGELA: Oh. That poor child. KYLE: Excuse me? JOHN QUIÑONES: In New York, where Angela encounters these gay dads… ANGELA: I just don’t think the two men should be raising a child. JOHN QUIÑONES: Gay couples are able to adopt children regardless of marital status. in other parts of the country like Kentucky, for example, Adopting a child jointly was not allowed before gay marriage was legalized in 2015. MELISSA: She’s so cute! Are you the dad? TIM: We’re both the dad. We’re married. MELISSA: Oh that poor child. BRENT: Excuse me? MELISSA: Look if you two wanna be together, that there’s your business, but she’s an innocent little girl. JOHN QUIÑONES: Unlike New York, the state of Kentucky can require same-sex couples to be legally married before adopting. Of course, some people believe same-sex couples shouldn’t even be allowed to marry, let alone adopt a child. You’re in a restaurant, when you overhear a customer criticize these gay parents were adopting and raising a little girl, What Would You Do?™ BRENT: She’s doing just fine…

KYLE: …and we’re a very happy family. ANGELA: She’s just never gonna have the same kind of bond that she would have with a woman. JOHN QUIÑONES: Today, we’re shooting the same scenario in two different places: Orangetown, New York… ANGELA: I just think it’s too much for two men to be raising a child. and Bardstown, Kentucky. MELISSA: Excuse me guys? She’s adawable. Are you the father? TIM & BRENT: We’re both are. JOHN QUIÑONES: These first customers are visiting Bardstown just like our What Would You Do? crew and they decide to grab a bite at Manny’s Kitchen. MELISSA: Don’t you think she should have ayy mowther? BRENT: We’re very happy. TIM: We’re taking care of it, it’s all legal. MELISSA: i don’t think a child should be raised that way. JOHN QUIÑONES: Instead of getting in the middle of the argument… MELISSA: You guys should think about hiring ayy full-tahm female nanny.

JOHN QUIÑONES: …she sits between them. MELISSA: Ay think she needs a female preysence in our life. JOHN QUIÑONES: Blocking our bully’s line of sight! MELISSA: Ma’am, excuse me, but you’re blocking my view. CUSTOMER #1: Lady are you nuts or something? Hey! This lady is annoying me, these other people. We need her to stop! We didn’t come here to be annoyed by you. MELISSA: You want me ta leave? CUSTOMER #1: That would be great JOHN QUIÑONES: He wastes no time answering Melissa’s question. MELISSA: This is unbelievable. JOHN QUIÑONES: Will he answer one of ours? CUSTOMER #1: Thank you.

JOHN QUIÑONES: Hi there, how are you? CUSTOMER #2: Hello. JOHN QUIÑONES: My name is John Quiñones. *rip headphone users* Why did you speak up? CUSTOMER #1: Been in education for a lot of years. The child being happy and well taken care of, that’s the big thing. CUSTOMER #2: She’s probably in a better place than a lot of children are, y’know. JOHN QUIÑONES: It’s a sentiment we hear from other customers. MELISSA: That an innocent child with two gay men raisin’ huurr. JOHN QUIÑONES: The well-being of the child is all that matters. AMANDA: In a normal household. CUSTOMER #3: That’s all what really matters. MELISSA: It’s nahwt right! That little girl growin’ up without a mother Well, yes, but that’s not on purpose they’re doing this deliberately I think that’s shocking Back at the orange town classic diner.

Are you the dad where the dads were married? Oh This customer almost seems entertained By the back and forth, you know, that’s what girl is not gonna have a normal life. She’s fine But as Angela continues she needs a mother Here okay to the real world you have two people celebrating demonstrating fuck You got a lot of nerve, but these are two men Starving to death, I don’t think that they’re gonna have the kind of bond that a mother which is not about your opinion It’s about the welfare of a child with human being The problem in the world is not two men raising a child.

The problem in the world is you making comments like that? We wanted to see what folks would say and you were so eloquent it’s hard to sit back and not say something to defend love How can you not? Man and woman woman and woman man and man two people are taking a child in To help bring that child up in the world and teaching them about love and diversity. It’s a whole new world Back in Kentucky will anyone side with our crude customer? Can you guys believe but they let gay people like those two names adopt children? Despite his own personal beliefs. He still doesn’t approve of her behavior Should gay couples be allowed to adopt a child My opinion no That’s what my Bible says and I want to go by what it says.

It’s a changing world. You said something like that? Well it is you know, the best thing we could do for that lady was to pray for her she had some Haitian heart She did yeah .

This Is What LGBT Life Is Like Around the World | Jenni Chang and Lisa Dazols | TED Talks

Jenni Chang: When I told my parents I was gay, the first thing they said to me was, “We’re bringing you back to Taiwan.” (Laughter) In their minds, my sexual orientation was America’s fault. The West had corrupted me with divergent ideas, and if only my parents had never left Taiwan, this would not have happened to their only daughter. In truth, I wondered if they were right. Of course, there are gay people in Asia, just as there are gay people in every part of the world. But is the idea of living an “out” life, in the “I’m gay, this is my spouse, and we’re proud of our lives together” kind of way just a Western idea? If I had grown up in Taiwan, or any place outside of the West, would I have found models of happy, thriving LGBT people? Lisa Dazols: I had similar notions. As an HIV social worker in San Francisco, I had met many gay immigrants. They told me their stories of persecution in their home countries, just for being gay, and the reasons why they escaped to the US.

I saw how this had beaten them down. After 10 years of doing this kind of work, I needed better stories for myself. I knew the world was far from perfect, but surely not every gay story was tragic. JC: So as a couple, we both had a need to find stories of hope. So we set off on a mission to travel the world and look for the people we finally termed as the “Supergays.” (Laughter) These would be the LGBT individuals who were doing something extraordinary in the world. They would be courageous, resilient, and most of all, proud of who they were. They would be the kind of person that I aspire to be.

Our plan was to share their stories to the world through film. LD: There was just one problem. We had zero reporting and zero filmmaking experience. (Laughter) We didn’t even know where to find the Supergays, so we just had to trust that we’d figure it all out along the way. So we picked 15 countries in Asia, Africa and South America, countries outside the West that varied in terms of LGBT rights. We bought a camcorder, ordered a book on how to make a documentary — (Laughter) you can learn a lot these days — and set off on an around-the-world trip. JC: One of the first countries that we traveled to was Nepal.

Despite widespread poverty, a decade-long civil war, and now recently, a devastating earthquake, Nepal has made significant strides in the fight for equality. One of the key figures in the movement is Bhumika Shrestha. A beautiful, vibrant transgendered woman, Bhumika has had to overcome being expelled from school and getting incarcerated because of her gender presentation. But, in 2007, Bhumika and Nepal’s LGBT rights organization successfully petitioned the Nepali Supreme Court to protect against LGBT discrimination. Here’s Bhumika: (Video) BS: What I’m most proud of? I’m a transgendered person. I’m so proud of my life. On December 21, 2007, the supreme court gave the decision for the Nepal government to give transgender identity cards and same-sex marriage. LD: I can appreciate Bhumika’s confidence on a daily basis. Something as simple as using a public restroom can be a huge challenge when you don’t fit in to people’s strict gender expectations. Traveling throughout Asia, I tended to freak out women in public restrooms.

They weren’t used to seeing someone like me. I had to come up with a strategy, so that I could just pee in peace. (Laughter) So anytime I would enter a restroom, I would thrust out my chest to show my womanly parts, and try to be as non-threatening as possible. Putting out my hands and saying, “Hello”, just so that people could hear my feminine voice.

This all gets pretty exhausting, but it’s just who I am. I can’t be anything else. JC: After Nepal, we traveled to India. On one hand, India is a Hindu society, without a tradition of homophobia. On the other hand, it is also a society with a deeply patriarchal system, which rejects anything that threatens the male-female order. When we spoke to activists, they told us that empowerment begins with ensuring proper gender equality, where the women’s status is established in society. And in that way, the status of LGBT people can be affirmed as well. LD: There we met Prince Manvendra. He’s the world’s first openly gay prince. Prince Manvendra came out on the “Oprah Winfrey Show,” very internationally. His parents disowned him and accused him of bringing great shame to the royal family.

We sat down with Prince Manvendra and talked to him about why he decided to come out so very publicly. Here he is: (Video) Prince Manvendra: I felt there was a lot of need to break this stigma and discrimination which is existing in our society. And that instigated me to come out openly and talk about myself. Whether we are gay, we are lesbian, we are transgender, bisexual or whatever sexual minority we come from, we have to all unite and fight for our rights. Gay rights cannot be won in the court rooms, but in the hearts and the minds of the people. JC: While getting my hair cut, the woman cutting my hair asked me, “Do you have a husband?” Now, this was a dreaded question that I got asked a lot by locals while traveling.

When I explained to her that I was with a woman instead of a man, she was incredulous, and she asked me a lot of questions about my parents’ reactions and whether I was sad that I’d never be able to have children. I told her that there are no limitations to my life and that Lisa and I do plan to have a family some day. Now, this woman was ready to write me off as yet another crazy Westerner. She couldn’t imagine that such a phenomenon could happen in her own country. That is, until I showed her the photos of the Supergays that we interviewed in India. She recognized Prince Manvendra from television and soon I had an audience of other hairdressers interested in meeting me. (Laughter) And in that ordinary afternoon, I had the chance to introduce an entire beauty salon to the social changes that were happening in their own country. LD: From India, we traveled to East Africa, a region known for intolerance towards LGBT people.

In Kenya, 89 percent of people who come out to their families are disowned. Homosexual acts are a crime and can lead to incarceration. In Kenya, we met the soft-spoken David Kuria. David had a huge mission of wanting to work for the poor and improve his own government. So he decided to run for senate. He became Kenya’s first openly gay political candidate. David wanted to run his campaign without denying the reality of who he was. But we were worried for his safety because he started to receive death threats. (Video) David Kuria: At that point, I was really scared because they were actually asking for me to be killed.

And, yeah, there are some people out there who do it and they feel that they are doing a religious obligation. JC: David wasn’t ashamed of who he was. Even in the face of threats, he stayed authentic. LD: At the opposite end of the spectrum is Argentina. Argentina’s a country where 92 percent of the population identifies as Catholic. Yet, Argentina has LGBT laws that are even more progressive than here in the US. In 2010, Argentina became the first country in Latin America and the 10th in the world to adopt marriage equality. There, we met María Rachid. María was a driving force behind that movement. María Rachid (Spanish): I always say that, in reality, the effects of marriage equality are not only for those couples that get married. They are for a lot of people that, even though they may never get married, will be perceived differently by their coworkers, their families and neighbors, from the national state’s message of equality.

I feel very proud of Argentina because Argentina today is a model of equality. And hopefully soon, the whole world will have the same rights. JC: When we made the visit to my ancestral lands, I wish I could have shown my parents what we found there. Because here is who we met: (Video) One, two, three. Welcome gays to Shanghai! (Laughter) A whole community of young, beautiful Chinese LGBT people. Sure, they had their struggles. But they were fighting it out. In Shanghai, I had the chance to speak to a local lesbian group and tell them our story in my broken Mandarin Chinese. In Taipei, each time we got onto the metro, we saw yet another lesbian couple holding hands.

And we learned that Asia’s largest LGBT pride event happens just blocks away from where my grandparents live. If only my parents knew. LD: By the time we finished our not-so-straight journey around the world, (Laughter) we had traveled 50,000 miles and logged 120 hours of video footage. We traveled to 15 countries and interviewed 50 Supergays. Turns out, it wasn’t hard to find them at all. JC: Yes, there are still tragedies that happen on the bumpy road to equality.

And let’s not forget that 75 countries still criminalize homosexuality today. But there are also stories of hope and courage in every corner of the world. What we ultimately took away from our journey is, equality is not a Western invention. LD: One of the key factors in this equality movement is momentum, momentum as more and more people embrace their full selves and use whatever opportunities they have to change their part of the world, and momentum as more and more countries find models of equality in one another. When Nepal protected against LGBT discrimination, India pushed harder. When Argentina embraced marriage equality, Uruguay and Brazil followed. When Ireland said yes to equality, (Applause) the world stopped to notice.

When the US Supreme Court makes a statement to the world that we can all be proud of. (Applause) JC: As we reviewed our footage, what we realized is that we were watching a love story. It wasn’t a love story that was expected of me, but it is one filled with more freedom, adventure and love than I could have ever possibly imagined. One year after returning home from our trip, marriage equality came to California. And in the end, we believe, love will win out. (Video) By the power vested in me, by the state of California and by God Almighty, I now pronounce you spouses for life. You may kiss. (Applause) .

Weird Things Gay Couples Do: Public Vs. Private

– I wanna go to the movie and be excited. – I wanna be surprised. – I don’t feel that. – Really? There’s… – Hey guys, I think we’re gonna take off. – Ah, gay! (chuckles) – Excuse me? – Uh. – I might be late tonight. (smack) – Gay. (swooshing and creaking) – Well, thank you! – Woop. (squeak and thud) (loud sigh) – You know, can I just get some, like, chicken and steamed vegetables? – And I just want a house salad, no cheese, dressing on the side.

(crunching) – Hi, uh, can I do the rose and rye, like gold dusted? – And, um, Macallan 18 with just one ice cube. – Ooh, fancy. Hmm. – Beer in can, beer in a bottle? – Beer in a bottle. – Ooh, fancy. – You’re a trickster. – I am. Ticked you into staying with me. – That’s true. (smack) (loud background conversations) – Aren’t you freezing? – No. – Do you want my coat? – No, no. I look super cute. (exasperated sigh) – Mmm, super cute. – Fuck off, I’m cold. – Okay, Banjo. Banjo (clicks tongue) bow! – Aww! – Yeah, I taught him that. (sigh) – Did you teach him this one, too? (exasperated sigh) (sheets rustling) – I don’t want to go. – I love you. – I love you. – I love you. I love you more. – This is not true. – Yeah. – I am the one who loves you more. – I’ll miss you. – I’ll see you at home? – Yes, I will see you at home. (sigh) – Hey, I love you. (smack) – I love you, too.

– Gay! (chuckles) It is gay, it is gay. (swooshing and squeaking) .

United Methodists confront possible split over LGBTQ issues





Kids React to Gay Marriage

(silence) ♪ (Betty Who, “Somebody Loves You”) ♪ – People are dancing in a Home Depot. – Ah, a flash mob? – It’s like an awesome flash mob. – ♪ …when you can’t be strong ♪ – This is like my cheer dance thing. – Is that his family? – Grandparents? – Why is that a boy right there? And why are they dancing? – I should be in that video. – ♪ …lay me down ♪ – His reaction. He’s just like, “Oh my god!” – Wait… wait a second. – Okay, so there’s a guy getting proposed to so… – ♪ Won’t you be good to me ♪ – He does have a nice suit, I have to say that. – If somebody proposes to me, that’s what I want to happen. – How do they get Home Depot to approve this though? – Is he a business man? (giggles) – ♪ Somebody misses you when you’re away ♪ – That’s cool.

– Okay, so they’re gay. But it’s okay. – ♪ Ooh, somebody loves you ♪ – Does he love him? – Good friends. – (gasps) Is he going to propose? – (whispering) That’s so cute. – (gasps) – (Spencer) Dustin, I love you more than anything in this entire world. – A guy proposing to a guy?! – Are they gay? – (Spencer) Will you marry me? – Marry who? You mean a boy marrying a boy? – That’s nice. (in video: cheering) – Congratulations! (in video: cheering and applause continues) – This is crazy! (giggles) – How does a guy marry a guy?! – So they’re gay? – (Finebros) Mm-hm. Oh. – That was so cute and it doesn’t matter if they’re gay or anything. – That was just so cute! I c– I can’t even. Okay. ♪ (jubilant brassy music) ♪ – Is it another marriage proposal? – A girl marrying a girl? – Hi! (in video: woman laughs in disbelief) – Is that a girl? ♪ (The Lumineers, “Ho Hey”) ♪ – That’s a little dangerous, standing on a bus.

– What if she just fell off? – “A little over six years ago…” – “I met a girl…” – ♪ I’ve been living a lonely life ♪ – No crying. – “Who stole my heart…” – I feel like I know what kind of topic this is. (in video: joyful laughter) (laughs along) – It’s like the first thing you do, try to pinch yourself. – ♪ I belong with you ♪ – (singing along) ♪ You belong with me You’re my sweetheart ♪ – (singing along) ♪ I belong with you You belong with me ♪ ♪ You’re my sweet– ♪ (giggles) I love this song. (in video: laughter and cheering) – (falsetto voice) Will you marry me? – How does a girl propose to a girl and how does a guy propose to a guy? – Are they gay too? (in video: applause) – And there it comes. – (excited) Yay! – Now say, “Yes.” – (laughing) “Vote bot?” – Awww. – Guessing that’s a “yes”. (in video: cheering) (shy giggle) – That was so adorable! – I love all these videos. They’re just too cute.

– Well, this is new! – That’s what I want to see a lot. Gay and lesbian people shouldn’t be hiding. – Wait, what was that about? ♪ (theme music) ♪ – (Finebros) What did both those videos have happen in them? – Justin Bieber married a guy. – (Finebros) That wasn’t Justin Bieber! – Oh. – Two marriage proposals, both with songs. – I was really in awe of them. – A boy and a boy together, and a girl and a girl. – There was a guy proposing to a guy. THAT’S JUST CRAZY! Then there was a girl proposing to a girl. THAT’S JUST CRAZY! – (Finebros) How did the videos make you feel? – Good. – They made me feel good. – It was really cool. – Oh, I was so moved by that. – I’m sad. Gay is bad for you. – (Finebros) Why do you think that is bad? – ‘Cause… I don’t know. – (Finebros) What do you think people’s reactions were when they watched these videos? – Um, it depends for certain people.

– A lot of people were happy. – Really good, positive things. – Yeah, I hope not negative things. – Some people must have been like, “Rock on!” And some people were like, “Ew.” Some people are so anti-gay. – You don’t see that everyday. It’s okay though. A boy can like a boy or a girl can like a girl. – Most people would probably have a reaction like, “It’s not natural!” It’s normal now. – (Finebros) A lot of people were upset at these marriage proposals BECAUSE it was a man proposing to a man and a woman proposing to a woman.

– I don’t get why anybody would be mad! – That’s just wrong. Anyone should be able to marry anyone. – You should feel happy that they’re getting married. – People that do not like gay– I mean, they are good. – That makes me mad. – You can’t tell another person who to marry! What if you’re a girl and your boyfriend proposes to you? That’s not different from a girl proposing to a girl. – If you want to marry the same sex that’s okay. It’s just like Macklemore said: “I can’t change you, even if I tried.” – (Finebros laughs) – ♪ Even if I wanted to ♪ ♪ My love, my love, my love ♪ – (Finebros) Do you know what being gay means? – No. – A boy likes a boy and a girl likes a girl. – (Finebros) It means that they like someone of the same gender. – Does that mean they’re a gate? – (Finebros) No, not a gate. – Or a Golden Gay Bridge? I just don’t know where the name comes from. – (Finebros) The word actually comes from the word that means happy. – If I got a box of microscopes, would I be gay? – (Finebros) Well, because you’re happy? – Yeah.

– (Finebros) Why is it that some people like the opposite gender while some people like the same gender? – Hmm. I don’t know. – I don’t know. – Well, it’s the same. My best friend’s a boy, not a girl. – You’re hanging out with a guy for the rest of your life. All you’re gonna know is guy things. If you go to a fancy restaurant, you’re just gonna be burping the whole time. – People that like the same gender are depicted as abnormal, but they were born that way. – Born that way. – Just how they were born. – I wasn’t born that way. – (Finebros) Well, do you think that people are born that way? – (Finebros) Some people say that people choose to be gay and that it’s something that can be corrected or fixed. – Yeah, it could be possible actually. But if you really like that person, you should be with that person. – That kind of stuff makes me sick. You like what you like! – You can’t be all bossy to people.

Like, “(bossily) You can’t do that! You can’t do that! You need to do this. No! No! No!” It’s okay for school and stuff like that– vocabulary, spelling, and everything, but when it’s yourself don’t let people tell you what to do. – (Finebros) What do you think about gay marriage? – I don’t care. – I’m just new to the concept. – The first time I ever heard about it I was like, “Okay, that’s kind of weird but…

Well, people should be together if they like each other a lot. – If one person should be able to do something, then everybody else should be able to do it. – That’s awesome. Some of our really good friends are gay and lesbian. – You shouldn’t have to be any different than regular marriage, even though in our society it is. – My friends talk about it all the time. They use the word “gay” as something else. You don’t just say, “(cruelly) Hey, you’re gay. Ha. Ha.” That’s dumb. Why would you be that mean to someone? – (Finebros) So in the United States, only 14 states are you allowed to get married if you are gay– only 14. – That is just insane. – Out of 50. That’s outrageous. – (sternly) I need to talk to Mr. President. – You know what? I feel bad for the people that live in that state and like the same gender. Mmm, it’s not right. – It kinda takes away from whole freedom thing. – Love’s a freedom and they’re totally taking that away. – It used to be illegal for a black person to marry a white person.

I don’t get why all this stuff has to be illegal. – Slavery wasn’t abolished until Abraham Lincoln. Then women weren’t even allowed to vote. We’ve progressed a lot, and there was bumps in the road, but now we’re at another bump. – I think that you have to find a boy and a girl. I mean, you can get married like that. But gay? You can’t get married. – (Finebros) But do you know why you don’t like it? – I don’t know. – Some people want to live in one state and they want to get married. They just ought to move to the other state. But I’m afraid there’s tornadoes.

I don’t want to go there, but I have to because I want to marry someone I like! And that’s not right. – (Finebros) Well, in some places in the world you can even be put in jail if you’re gay. – (put off) Wow! – (Finebros) And even worse, in some places you even could be sentenced to death just because you love the same gender. (frustrated scream) – I’m not going wherever that is. – You can’t just kill someone for what they like. – I’m kind of ashamed that I live in this world! Why can’t I live on that moon that supposedly has jellyfish on it? – (Finebros) Why does it matter so much to other people who you love and who you marry? – Because gay is bad for you. – I don’t know. For crazy, dumb, selfish stuff. – I’m not really sure what’s in their mind, what they’re thinking. Well, I guess people consider it “not normal”. – Maybe their religion doesn’t want that? – Nobody really has a reason to hate gays. It’s not like– there’s no completely valid reason. – (Finebros) A lot of people who are gay are afraid to admit it and afraid to come out.

They’re worried about their family rejecting them or losing their friends. Why does something like that happen so often? – Because they know people are mean about it and they don’t want to be bullied. – ‘Cause they’re scared of what might happen. – Some people, I guess, would think they’re trying to hit on them. That totally changes the perspective. The thought might cross your mind of, “Oh my god.

What if they have a crush on me?” It’s the same thing if a guy says he has a crush on me. And you say, “Oh, well, you know, I don’t really like you in that way but we can still be friends.” I mean, you don’t just have to completely cast him out of your life. You can’t read minds, you can’t tell if someone likes you or not so… yeah, just deal with it. Deal with it. (everyone laughs) – (Finebros) So if someone was your friend and they turned out to be gay would you still be their friend? – No. – I would still be their friend but I would just ask them a few questions. – Well, I would have a different look on it, but I think I’d still be friends with them. – If it’s your friend, then it’s your friend. – I’d love them more for being honest with me. – They don’t turn different. They just turn out to love a boy.

– My best friend is gay, and so he came out last year. And I mean, seriously, we’ve been best friends since third grade. – I would keep being your friend. Even if you think it’s weird, it doesn’t really affect on how they act. If you don’t think about it, they sound like a perfectly normal kid. – (Finebros) So now let’s go over some of the reasons people say they are against gay marriage. – (wearily) Oh god.

– (Finebros) Some have said they’re against it because they say it’s not natural, because a man and a woman, they can have children. Is that a valid reason to be against gay marriage? – No! – Nope. – Adopt! – People are mean to each other sometimes. Maybe that’s just their opinion. – That’s no reason at all. Some people want to have kids. Some people don’t want to have kids. So it doesn’t really affect on it. – If it’s happening and it’s not a chemical, it is natural. (laughs) – (Finebros) Another major reason that it’s very controversial is that every major religion has something in their books that could be interpreted as being against people who are gay. What are your thoughts about people who are against it for religious beliefs? – I mean, I’m a Christian and I don’t think it’s wrong. – It’s, like, the 21st century. – Things have changed. – If they said that, like, “God told me blah, blah, blah,” I’d be like, “(mumbling) Um, that’s nice.

I’m gonna leave you now.” – Religion shouldn’t be something that determines who you’re friends with. – A lot of people have that logic. My religion says so, so I have to do it. When you’re saying that someone’s gay and that’s wrong, you’re using your religion against someone else. That would be so wrong. – (Finebros) Some states don’t let you get married but they’ll give gay couples the same rights as someone who is married. Is that enough? I feel like they should be able to get married if they want to but it’s better than nothing. – It’s not good because it’s like, “Oh, you can have every single right. You just can’t get married.” That’s the one thing they want. – I sort of get what they’re saying about, “Oh. What are they complaining about? They still have the same rights.” But they’re still deprived of one thing which is sort of a major milestone in somebody’s life. – You could have your friend that’s not gay. He’ll be married.

But then you’ll be with your partner, but you won’t be married. It doesn’t make sense. – Before Martin Luther King stood up, it’s like white people were like kings and queens! Then black people were like tiny, little servants. They’re treating– the people who get married like, “We’re the people who own a mansion.” And then the other people… people in small cottages. If a person wants to do something and they can’t, that means something in your life is impossible, like you have a brick wall all around you. And you want to go to that tree, and you can’t pass over that wall. Would you want to move out? Yeah. But you can’t. It’s like you’re trapped. – (Finebros) And what would you want to say to the people out there that believe gay marriage shouldn’t be allowed? – Get a hobby. – Cry me a river, build me a bridge, and get over it. – Just get a whole new idea about it because it’s fine. There’s nothing wrong with it. – If only gay people could marry, you’d be really sad. So why shouldn’t they be able to marry? – It’s not okay to hate gay people.

You can feel that way. Don’t bring it into the law. – Think of God. He loves everybody and he can’t hate anything. – You guys are basic and nobody likes you. No, I’m kidding. If they’ve never been around gay people and they’re just doing what the Bible says or what their parents say, you’re judging that person without actually meeting them. – You need to realize you’re just a little speck. No one cares what you think. – I wouldn’t exactly say, “You suck. Get out of my life.,” but I’d say that in the nicest words possible. – (Finebros) And what about people who might be watching that are either in a bad situation and they are openly gay or they’ve not come out and are too afraid to come out? – All right. I think this is a quote. “Never think about what someone says about you. Only think about what you think of yourself.” – If someone doesn’t accept you, then they obviously aren’t your friends. – I’m totally supporting you guys. You guys are awesome. – I’m your friend! – (Finebros laughs) – Air hug! – There are people who are supportive of your sexual orientation.

It does get better. – You always hear, “Your real self shines through.” Maybe eventually someday the whole thing will be over and a nice gay couple can be together. Maybe someday people won’t have to worry about it and you might feel like you’ve done an actual good thing. – (Finebros) Do you think that by the time you have grown up that gay marriage will be legal everywhere? – Yes. – I hope. – It should be. – No! No! No! – I’m not sure. People are selfish.

I think the world everywhere– like all planets– just legalize it. – (Finebros) Why is equal rights, as a concept for all people, something so important? – Because human beings are human beings and they should all be treated the same. – So it’s fair for everyone and people don’t get upset or sad. – Remember that time where there were bathrooms for black people and bathrooms for white people? This is the same thing. No one has a greater power than you except, you know, the bureaucracy and everything. (laughs) – It’s so funny how people who, let’s say, are racist. And then you say to them, “We should be different because my eyes are blue and your eyes are brown.” They’d probably be like, “Oh what? No, that’s absurd!” It’s the same thing! I mean, unless you guys want to hear me go on and on about this, I suggest you just cut it right now.

– This is a really big situation of what people think and what people are hating. Even though that’s not my problem, I will still fight for it if I can. (silence) .

Moments That Won’t Make Sense To Straight Girls

– Hey babe, yeah, I’ll pick you in like, 30 minutes. I’m still getting ready. (clipping nails) ‘Kay, see you soon. (heavy bass instrumental music) Katelin, you look amazing today. – Oh, thank you. My boyfriend actually bought me this dress. – Lesbians can’t have sex. – Really? ‘Cause lesbians orgasm 75% of the time during sex, while straight girls only orgasm 61.5% of the time. So, yeah, we can. – Mom, I’ve met a girl. Yeah, she’s awesome. Well, we’ve been on three dates so we uh, bought a shelter cat to celebrate. – I came seven times last night. – Oh, seven times, that’s just rude and excessive. Ugh, honestly. – Hey babe, can you um, put it on? – Yeah, okay.

One sec. (pulling velcro apart) Okay. Sorry, just, just one sec. Um… (pulling velcro apart) Hold on, it’s just, it’s all twisted. It’s just all… – You know what? I can totally turn her straight. (woman sighing) – So before I prescribe you this medication, is there any chance you could be pregnant? – Oh, God no. – Are you on birth control? Do you just have sex with your husband then, is what you’re saying? – Hey Tan, what are you doing? – Looking for a girl who hasn’t dated one of my exes or friends. – Hey guys, I just started watching The L Word.

(girls sighing) – (bleep) Jenny. – Hey Tan, we need a pitcher for our softball team. – What, just ’cause I’m gay you think I play softball? Alright, let’s go. – Do you just keep that on you at all times? – Yeah. .

Gay Concentration Camps in Chechnya: What Can You Do To Help?

Hey that’s Rowan and in this video I’m going to be talking about the horrendous treatment of gay men in Chechnya this is going to be the first in what I hope is a series of videos on my channel giving you real concrete points of action to take forwards on topics of injustice or suffering that might otherwise make you feel quite helpless to do anything about the situation at the time were filming this video as we know it is that a russian publication broke the news in early april that around 100 gay men in chechnya had been rounded up initial reports said that men have been detained and at least three had died now it’s at least four but with estimates being much more than that initially they said there were two camps but now allegedly there are six that been discovered so many of managed to escape the camps say that they were tortured primarily using electrocution not just as a form of punishment but also to force them to give up the names of other gay men the Chechen president has denied these allegations but he has denied them by saying that there are in fact no gay men in Chechnya at all you cannot detain and persecute people who simply do not exist in the Republic he said police in the country are allegedly advocating for honor killings suggesting that parents take care of their children or they’ll do it for them and that made a protest Russian police detained LGBT activists protesting the treatment of gay men in Chechnya initially Putin denies allegations but has literally just backed an inquiry into the hate crimes in Chechnya this is a horrendous situation but there are some things you can do to help so if you only have one minute you can find a petition there are a number going around but I would suggest at the moment signing the Amnesty International petition which I’ll leave a link to you below you can also donate again there are a number of organizations that are taking donations to do with this such as rainbow railroad which helps LGBT asylum seekers and refugees and the Russian LGBT networks that are helping activists on the ground if you have an hour to spare for the cause then it’s time to get in contact with some people when you get in contact with people about a cause that you care about this might be about putting pressure on them to make a difference in the positions of power that they’re in or it might be about you being ever get more information for example you might want to reach out to your local representative or to the UN ambassador of your country to ask what their stance is what they’re doing about it and hold them to account or if you want to contact people to see other things that you might be able to do to help out in the future I’m going to leave links to different charities that working on this project you give them an email and see how much time that you might be able to commit and see if there’s anything you can do if you have a deal so that you can set aside to help them consider maybe fundraising at your school University or work for example that way you can take the donation that you’re able to do in one minute and extrapolate it out by inspiring that people around you to care about this cause as well another thing you can do in a day is go to a protest there are a number of protests outside Russian embassies recently so make sure you’re always looking out for those and prize season is coming up and pride it’s a perfect opportunity to make your voices heard about the issues surrounding LGBT people worldwide and finally if this is an issue that you want to stay informed and engaged about in the long term I’m going to leave a link below to a newsletter you can sign up to four news as and when it comes up and if this is an issue that you feel extremely passionate about and you want to drive towards with all of your activist strengths then I think it might be worth looking at the situation around LGBT asylum seekers and refugees within your country that might be a more wider context issue which releases into this where they were already the organizations probably within your city or within your community that you can lend your time and effort to on a more long-term basis so as I said this is just stuff that you can do based on the situation right now that’s likely to change so keep yourself informed if it’s something that you care about if you’re involved in a course or organization that you would like me to highlight in one of these videos then please get in contact with me email address that I’ll put in the description and if you do any of the action points that I mentioned in the video please let me know in the comments below until I see you next time bye